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The Tranquilities Series for Cancer is based on the premise that the beginning and root cause of all stress can be traced back to what we will call a sorrow.
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A sorrow includes grief and loss issues such as; losing things we had, never receiving things we anticipated, traumas, setbacks and disappointments. This sorrow can make us feel incomplete, as if we do not have everything we need to be whole and successful. Clearly, the diagnosis of cancer may have been a shock, a trauma or a setback for you.
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As a direct result of sorrow, we experience fear. A few examples of this fear may include:
- Fear for your future health and survival
- Financial fears and concerns
- Fears of procedures, drugs or surgery
- Fears of losing hair, nausea, etc.
- Fear of how family members are dealing with your illness
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Because of our sorrow and fear, we become resentful and angry. This anger can be directed to other family members or others we meet, or the world in general. Some individuals become mad at God. Or, if it's unacceptable to vent the anger, it may be turned inward, experiencing it as feeling down or depressed. If left unresolved, this anger can ruin relationships, careers, marriages, business opportunities and your health. During this health challenge, it is more important than ever to reduce your stress levels.
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In the fourth step of stress, all of these previous feelings lower your sense of self-worth and self-esteem. At this point, your motivation and drive to try new things may decrease, as you have less and less confidence in your abilities. For some individuals, the diagnosis of cancer lowers their sense of self-worth and self-esteem.
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Finally, you begin to worry and over think, possibly creating feelings of anxiety. You may worry about another sorrow issue occurring, but can expand it into worrying about many things. As your mind fills with worry, your ability to perform tasks, interact with others, study and sleep decreases.
If left unchecked, this pattern may continue into a downward spiral, creating more fear, more anger or depression, lower self-esteem and more worry and anxiety.
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Tranquilities can teach you how to stop this pattern by helping you view you situation in a new way.
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